I need some unbiased opinions to help sort out my feelings?

I'm 30 and I have two children. I won't go into all the details, but my life has been pretty messy until about 4 years ago. I have 3 (yes 3!) exhusbands. After that last divorce, I've turned my life around and am doing very well! Here's the deal. I've known a man for about 4 years. He's in the Navy and was overseas. His family lives in the town I do, so I see him when he's home on leave. Well I've recently had to face the fact that I seem to be in love with this man! Sadly, I realize that I have not felt this way before, despite having married three people. Well, this man is now stationed in the US (although still not close to me). Now that he is stateside, we talk on the phone most days. I'd love to start dating right now, but he's the only man who holds my interest and the distance is still an issue. He says it doesn't seem feasible for us to be together, but he doesn't want to give up. I don't either, but I can't see waiting years for each other. Please talk some sense into me!